So, as it turns out, moving to another country in the middle of a pregnancy is stressful. Who knew?
It’s not even the move itself that’s freaking me out. Boxes will be packed, loaded on a truck, and driven to our new home. You know, once we actually find one.
And once we have an address, we can open a Canadian bank account. And apply for health insurance.
What’s really stressing me out is finding prenatal care. And figuring out where this kid is going to be born.
I’m fortunate that things have been going so well. No concerns about me or the baby (other than the mystery crotch pain that still hasn’t gone away). I’m not considered high-risk, despite my “advanced maternal age.” But I do have a negative blood type. Hubby’s is positive. Which means I need a RhoGAM shot at 28 weeks. Approximately a week after our arrival in Montreal.
Where do I go for this injection and the rest of my prenatal care? As I’m learning, there is a shortage of health care providers in Quebec. My first choice would be to go to a midwife. Currently, my OBs office has several of them, and any one of them could attend the birth at the hospital across the street, in what they call a “natural birthing center.” Montreal has three birthing centers, where you can be attended by a midwife, but they fill up quickly. And from what I can tell, if you go to a hospital, you don’t have the option of a midwife. Most women who want that option get on the waiting list at all three birthing centers by the time they’re 5 or 6 weeks pregnant. I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant and just got myself on one waiting list this week.
OBs are also in high demand, and I probably won’t have much luck finding one of those, either. So my next option is a general practitioner, or family doctor, who is taking new patients. I spoke to a very nice woman at the birthing center, and she gave me a whole list of numbers to try, but I’m so overwhelmed, I don’t know where to begin. Hiring a doula is also an option, especially if I don’t end up with the kind of practitioner I want, but I don’t exactly have an extra $1000 lying around to pay for one.
And what about after the baby is born? Apparently pediatricians aren’t easy to come by, either.
The whole thing makes me want to curl up into a ball for the next 4 1/2 months and just hope for the best.
Thumper is going to be born, one way or another. With or without a midwife. With or without having a pediatrician lined up. Which is fine, if everything goes smoothly, and she’s healthy. But what if she’s not?
I try to remind myself to breathe. To take things one at a time. To sit down with my list and cross off those numbers one by one, getting whatever information I can over the phone. When I can find time to call, which is an issue in itself.
Any Canadians have any ideas about how to go about this? Anything I haven’t thought of that could make this whole process easier? As I told the woman at the birthing center, at this point, I’ll take anything I can get.